Divorce

Divorce

Divorce is something in today’s world that occurs frequently, and its rate is still rapidly growing. I’m going to start off by giving you some of my viewpoints on divorce and how it has affected me. Both of my parents divorced each other when I was around the age of fifteen. Some say that it is better to have your parents divorce when you are younger because you are not at the age to know exactly what is going on. But in my case, I was well at the age to know what horrible situation was going on with my parents. At the time I fully knew what was going on but my little sister, who at the time was about eleven wasn’t able to comprehend what exactly was going on. In her case it was actually better, due to the fact that she still had a couple to realize that her parents were not going to be with each other anymore.
It was a whole process before the divorce actually happened. You saw certain things around the house change. These things consisted of your parents coming home from work in bad moods more often. You hear and sometimes see them fight with each other for things that little children would fight over. At times your parents would not even say a word to each other for days and still act like everything alright. The one that would often amaze me was when I would ask one my parents about the other and they would reply by saying, “I don’t really care about what he/she does.” When you hear something like that as I young teenager, I don’t know if you take that as a joke or as something going terribly wrong is your house. So in fact I took it as something going terribly wrong.
You see, I don’t want to say that I am a brilliant kid, but I knew that something was not right with my parents. Maybe some parents are better than others when it comes to hiding the fact that their relationship is diminishing. It can even be that they want their older kids to see that things aren’t the way that they used to be and that maybe it was time for change. In a way, I think that this is better to do because in the long run it is better for the children. It sound crazy but I think that it is smart because element of surprise (especially in this situation) can be very crucial and someone can end up getting hurt badly. For instance, I had never knew that my parents where going through these hard times and they needed to be separate from each, when it came time for me to find out that they could no longer be together it would of destroyed me. The only difference is that it did not occur because I was wise enough to know that a change needed to happen or else the atmosphere in the house would not get any better.
When the day came for my mother to tell me what is exactly was going on, I just brushed it off like nothing ever happened and I tried to continue my life the way that I had been living it. Receiving the whole speech from my mother, it seemed like it wasn’t her fault at all. I felt like she was trying to tell me that the reason for all this was because of my father and all of his actions. Once again as a wise teenager I knew that this couldn’t be his entire fault. But who was I to try to see who was right and who was wrong in this situation. I was just a kid trying to figure out why his parents, who he loved dearly didn’t love each other nearly as much as they used. Now, when it came down to my father telling me what was going on with him and his soon to be ex-wife, I actually got the same speech of how it wasn’t really his fault, but the way that my mother was acting wasn’t right. Hearing both sides of the story made me think about something that I couldn’t get off my mind. If they both were blaming each other, how am I ever going to find out who was actually wrong and who was actually right. This is something that still haunts me today and hopefully one day I will realize what went wrong with these two people.
Divorce is a judicial declaration dissolving in whole or in part, especially one that releases the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations. (www.dictionary.com) With this definition, many are able to see a husband’s and wife’s relationship dissolving from a long period of time before the actual divorce comes into play. A divorce can be compared with an annulment, which is a declaration that claims a marriage to no longer exist but the effects of marriage can be recognized in such organizations like child custody, child support, and distribution of property. In the twentieth century, divorce rates have sky rocketed in many developed countries. The countries in which divorce has become quite common has been the United States, South Korea, and members of the European Union. The acceptance of the single parent family has resulted in many women deciding to have children outside of marriage, as there is little remaining social stigma attached to unwed mothers in some societies. (www.wikipedia.com)